Three-day Facilitator Training.
Overall Aims of the Nine Week Programme
- Reduce parent’s feelings of isolation.
- Challenge parent’s feelings of guilt.
- Lessen deterministic thinking about causes (e.g. “he can’t help it.. he has ADHD” or “… he saw his father be violent”) – it is always multi-causal.
- Reinforce belief in possibility of change (without giving false hope or creating complacency).
- Clarify boundaries of what is acceptable and unacceptable behaviour (harder than it sounds as there are many grey areas and we need to avoid imposing our own values).
- Arm parents with some simple concepts that have proved empowering: e.g. entitlement, the power of being irresponsible, etc.
- Examine strategies for creating meaningful and practical consequences for unacceptable behaviour. The approach of most parenting courses and materials is to assume that children are basically cooperative and only need encouragement and positivity to be good. These approaches usually have failed miserably with the oppositional children of the WiC? parents. Finding consequences for children who care about little and don’t want to cooperate is very difficult.
- Explore anger, both children’s and (often more usefully) parents’
- Encourage assertiveness
- Encourage self-care
- Reinforce progress and provide emotional support while parents are attempting to become more assertive parents.
- It is expected that parents will feel less depressed and powerless by the end of the course (evaluation of those who complete the course strongly supports this at two month follow up).
- It is hoped that the amount of violence and abusive behaviour will decrease in a majority of the families and the majority of group completers do report less abuse (but this depends on many variables that are out of our control and change in children’s behaviour may be a long term consequence of changes in parental behaviour). The majority of parents (about 66%) do report an improvement in their problem child’s abusive behaviour at 2-month follow-up. However, most are still experiencing some verbal abuse and yelling. Changing parents behaviour is part of a long process of change for many.
- Raise awareness of the issue of violence to parents in the community and in the field.
Child on Parent Violence Talk Radio Interview – 7 August 2019
WIC? Facilitator Training
For further information on our three day training in the Who’s in Charge? programme please click the WIC? Training Booking Form at the top of the page.
Also look at our Child to Parent Violence One Day Workshop.
For further information on this training, please contact Cathy directly via the Contact page.
Please see our Events page for forthcoming dates.
A great course, a great programme and great facilitators. Carole and Cathy were very easy to get along with, approachable, informative and listened as well as generating interesting discussions and ideas which made the training exiting, not forgetting a good mix of humour and fun. I left feeling very inpatient to get the programme up and running and using my new found knowledge in my one to one work as a Family Support Worker.Many thanksMarie
This course will give parents confidence to believe in themselves, and to try out new strategies for dealing with behaviours from their children.
I love the way this training offers a new view of parenting, without blame. It follows this up with simple, attentive methods of parenting by assisting a shift of attitude, so that a small change may be as effective in changing a child’s behaviour.